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The Power of Facing Fear

September 22nd, 2009

Do you usually say yes to life’s invitations? Monhegan Island, Maine, could be one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever visited, yet when Greg recently asked me to hike its rocky cliffs my first response was to say no. Whatever the question, no is often my immediate response.

Do you want to take a walk?
How about a bike ride by the river?

What would you think about checking out that new museum?

It seems to be a knee-jerk reaction on my part, but when I dig a little deeper, I discover fear. There’s a thin layer of fear that surrounds almost every new experience. When I name, feel, and face it, fear loses its intensity, and I find the courage to say yes.

I go on the walk, take a bike ride, or visit the museum, and I’m almost always rewarded. I see a beautiful vista, feel the pride of accomplishment, or learn something new.

Taking the path of least resistance leads to complacency. It may be safe, but the scenery seldom changes. When I get off my butt, face my fears, and just do it, I fuel the engines that energize my life.

When life issues an invitation I am learning to consider saying yes before no. Life is most likely offering me a lovely present, but I need to show up to receive it.

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Happy Places

September 16th, 2009

Do you have a happy place? A happy place is a memory that helps ground you. It connects you to your source, or essence. Visiting it can shift your attitude. It can bring you peace.

My happy place was a spot in Muir Woods in California. Picture a clear, gentle stream slowly meandering through a cathedral composed of giant red woods. I visited Muir Woods close to ten years ago, and I revisit it often in my imagination, especially when I am feeling anxious.

Yesterday, I discovered another happy spot. Greg and I stumbled upon a beautiful green pond at the bottom of a waterfall outside of Conway, New Hampshire. There’s a photo of it above. I can’t explain why, but this place seems magical. It’s the kind of place you’d expect to find fairies, nymphs, and satyrs hidden behind the boulders, trees, and bushes. Green, blue, gray, rust. Cool and quiet. Its beauty is so startling that it almost feels surreal.

Happy places aren’t always visual. For some, listening to a beautiful piece of music can transport them to their special spot. Others may experience theirs touching a piece of worn fabric or holding the hand of someone they love.

What’s wonderful about happy places is that you can visit them at any time. No advance tickets to purchase, passport photos to shoot, shots to take, or bags to pack. You can be there in less than a minute. And when you’re there? Serenity washes over you. You know you are safe; you’re not alone. You know all is right with the world.

What is your happy place? Write and tell me about it. I’d like to know.

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