A great tip for cooling off your inner critic. Here’s a tip from Men’s Health magazine for those of us who have hyperactive inner critics. Studies show you can slow negative self-talk by rapidly sweeping your eyes from side to side about twenty-five times. “It stimulates both sides of the brain and briefly disrupts your thinking patterns,” reports Matthew McKay, PhD, clinical director for Haight-Ashbury Psychological Services in San Francisco and author of Thoughts and Feelings: Taking Control of Your Moods and Your Life.
Archive for the ‘personal development’ Category
Stop Your Inner Critic Cold
June 29th, 2011
Know Thyself
May 2nd, 2011
Understanding projection. In my workshop “Engineer Your Career,” I talk about the psychological term “projection.” Usually about a third of the workshop participants have heard the term before. Projection can provide a wonderful mirror for self-discovery when you glance into it. Here’s how it works.
Projection occurs when, rather than acknowledging or accepting negative traits or positive virtues, your ego projects these traits onto other people. When you fall in love, you project your hidden, positive qualities onto another person. And when you vehemently dislike someone, you project your hidden negative qualities onto that person.
People who are rude and insensitive work my last nerve. I have been forced to admit that when I am under stress, I can be rude and insensitive without even knowing it. On the other hand, I have always been attracted to creative people. Several years ago, when I began to explore my creative side through painting and clay, that attraction lessened. I reclaimed my projection.
Pay attention to projection and you’ll begin to reclaim lost pieces of your true self.