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Look in the Mirror

March 28th, 2011

What do you see? “The Guy in the Glass” is a poem written in 1934 by American writer Peter “Dale” Wimbrow (1895-1954); it was first published in The American Magazine in May that same year. Wimbrow submitted the poem in response to the magazine’s request for its readers to send answers to an 18-year-old man’s question. His question was “Why should an ambitious young man be honest?”

Many versions alter the word “pelf” ‘ in the first line of Wimbrow’s poem to “self,” believing the word “pelf” to be a misprint. Pelf in fact means money or wealth, usually ill-gotten, derived from Old French “pelfe” and “pelfre,” meaning reward gained from plunder or contest or achievements, probably related to the same roots as the word “pilfer.”

The Guy in the Glass

When you get what you want in your struggle for pelf,
And the world makes you King for a day,
Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that guy has to say.

For it isn’t your Father or Mother or Wife,
Who judgement upon you must pass.
The feller whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the guy staring back from the glass.

He’s the feller to please, never mind all the rest,
For he’s with you clear up to the end,
And you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the guy in the glass is your friend.

You may be like Jack Horner and “chisel” a plum,
And think you’re a wonderful guy,
But the man in the glass says you’re only a bum
If you can’t look him straight in the eye.

You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you’ve cheated the guy in the glass.

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Are You Self-Actualized?

January 3rd, 2011

Characteristics of self-actualized people. Perhaps you remember studying  Abraham Maslow’s theories in a college psychology class. Maslow believed that we have to satisfy our fundamental physical and psychological needs before reaching our full potential as human beings. In order to understand these needs, he developed a scale he called a “Hierarchy of Needs”; it  followed this progression: physiological needs, safety needs, love and belonging needs, esteem needs, and self-actualization.

During his research, Maslow identified a number of characteristics that self-actualized people had in common. As you read through them, see which ones apply to you.

  • Superior perception of reality.
  • Increased acceptance of self, others, and nature.
  • Increased spontaneity.
  • Increased ability to solve problems; task-oriented rather than preoccupied with self.
  • Increased desire for privacy and solitude.
  • Increased autonomy. Independence.
  • Gratitude and richness of emotional reaction.
  • More frequent peak experiences.
  • Spirituality that is not necessarily religious in a formal sense.
  • Increased identification with humanity.
  • Feelings of intimacy with select loved one.
  • Democratic values.
  • Greatly increased creativity.
  • Humor that is philosophical rather than hostile.

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